--- title: "Therapy for Children After Abuse or Neglect in Eugene, Oregon | Ubuntu Counseling" description: "Trauma therapy for children who have experienced abuse or neglect, in Eugene, Oregon with Heather Swaney, MA, LPC. Safety first, the child's pace, caregivers included." lang: en json-ld: | { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@type": "MedicalWebPage", "name": "Therapy for Children After Abuse or Neglect", "description": "Trauma therapy for children who have experienced abuse or neglect, in Eugene, Oregon with Heather Swaney, MA, LPC. 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A child who has been hurt does not owe anyone their story, and a room that demands one is not a safe room. ## Safety Comes Before Anything Else Before a child can do any of the work people imagine therapy to be, they have to believe the room is steady. Same time, same space, same person, the same box of things on the same shelf. Predictability is not a warm-up to the treatment. For a child who has lived with harm or with absence, predictability is a large part of the treatment. So the first stretch is often unremarkable to watch. We play. We draw. We build something and knock it down and build it again. I am learning what settles them, what tightens them, which sounds in the hallway make their shoulders come up. They are learning that I do not push, do not startle, and do not go strange when something hard comes near. I never require a child to talk about what happened. Some tell me early, in pieces, out of order. Some tell me a year in. Some never put it in words at all and still get better, because the body learns something new about being with an adult. ## The Child Sets the Pace Children move toward difficult material and then away from it, and both directions are correct. A child who spends forty minutes on a game after saying one enormous sentence is not avoiding. They are regulating. My job is to notice the sentence, hold it carefully, and let the game happen. Play, art, movement and story are how younger children work. A puppet can say a thing a child cannot say in the first person. A drawing can hold something too big to hold out loud. When a child wants to talk plainly, we talk plainly. When they want to walk while we talk, we walk. I am direct with children about what therapy is. That I am not here to trick them, that I will tell them if I have to tell another grown-up something, and that they can say no to a question. Children who have been harmed have usually had a great deal decided for them. Giving back small, real choices is not a technique. It is the point. ## Working Alongside Caregivers A child heals inside relationships, so the adults raising them are part of this work, whether that is a parent, a grandparent, a relative caregiver, an adoptive parent or a resource parent. I meet with caregivers regularly, on their own, so we can talk honestly without a child in the room. Much of that time is spent on translation. Why a child who is finally safe can get harder rather than easier. Why a small correction produces a very large reaction. What a shutdown is, and how it differs from defiance. What to do at bedtime, at drop-off, at the moment the child pushes hardest to find out whether you will leave too. Caregivers carry a lot of quiet exhaustion and often some guilt, whether or not any of it is theirs to carry. That belongs in the work as well. I am not grading your parenting. I am trying to help you have enough left to keep being steady. ## What Recovery Tends to Look Like Progress after abuse or neglect is rarely a clean line. It looks like a child sleeping through more nights than they used to. Fewer explosions, or the same number but shorter. A child who can name being angry instead of only showing it. A caregiver who can tell the difference between a hard evening and a setback. Some of it is practical: a plan for the school, language for a substitute teacher, a way through visits or transitions that reliably rattle everything for two days afterward. I have sat on many sides of the systems families end up inside, and that shows up here as plain help rather than as commentary. I do not promise outcomes. What I can promise is that the room will stay the same shape week to week, and that no one will be hurried. ## What I Do Not Do I do not conduct forensic interviews, abuse investigations or evaluations of any kind. I do not diagnose, test or assess, and I do not produce parenting-capacity assessments, custody evaluations, court recommendations or expert testimony. If a case needs that kind of work, it needs a provider whose role is that work, and keeping the roles separate protects the child's therapy. I am a mandatory reporter under Oregon law. I say that out loud to families at the start rather than leaving it in the paperwork, so no one is surprised by it later. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor in Oregon. In person in Eugene, or by telehealth anywhere in Oregon. Common Threads - Children as young as four - Play, art and movement rather than interrogation - Sleep, startle, anger and shutdown - Caregiver sessions running alongside - Transitions, visits and school supports - Kinship, adoptive and resource families Next Step ## Start With a Free 30-Minute Call A short conversation so I can hear what is going on and we can decide together whether this is the right room for it. [Get in touch](/contact)[(458) 215-1465](tel:+14582151465) Related Reading [ ### Trauma and PTSD The main page for this work, across every age. ](/services/trauma-and-ptsd) [ ### Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse For the people who did not get help when it happened. ](/services/adult-survivors-of-childhood-abuse) [ ### Parenting Support Behavior as communication, and what to do with it. ](/services/parenting-support) [ ### Children and Teens How I work with younger clients generally. ](/who-i-help/children-and-teens) ![Ubuntu Counseling butterfly logo](/__l5e/assets-v1/01187caf-6a1d-4921-b206-5538892f6bb3/ubuntu-counseling-logo.png)Ubuntu Counseling Heather Swaney, MA, LPC Office 132 E Broadway Suite 303 Eugene, OR 97401 [(458) 215-1465](tel:+14582151465) In person in Eugene, telehealth anywhere in Oregon. Weekend appointments available. Pages - [About Heather](/about) - [Services](/services) - [Rates and Payment](/rates) - [Who I Help](/who-i-help) - [Eugene, Oregon](/eugene-therapist) - [Springfield, Oregon](/springfield-therapist) - [Lane County, Oregon](/lane-county-therapist) - [Telehealth in Oregon](/oregon-telehealth) - [The Office](/office) - [Frequently Asked Questions](/faq) - [Contact](/contact) - [Privacy Policy](/privacy-policy) - [Terms of Use](/terms) - [Accessibility](/accessibility) Who I Help - [Children and Teens](/who-i-help/children-and-teens) - [Young Adults](/who-i-help/young-adults) - [Adults](/who-i-help/adults) - [Seniors](/who-i-help/seniors) - [Couples](/who-i-help/couples) - [Families and Parents](/who-i-help/families-and-parents) Areas of Focus - [Autism](/services/autism) - [ADHD](/services/adhd) - [Trauma and PTSD](/services/trauma-and-ptsd) - [Anxiety](/services/anxiety) - [Grief and Loss](/services/grief-and-loss) - [Life Transitions](/services/life-transitions) - [LGBTQIA+ Affirming](/services/lgbtqia-affirming) - [Couples and Family](/services/couples-and-family) - [Consultation and Letters](/services/consultation-and-letters) * * * Using this site or emailing does not create a client relationship. 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